Hey Adam,
It has been a while lol. I hope you are doing well.
I'm NOT using a factory loom, so I have a question about wiring the VTEC solenoid without the additional relay as you stated above.
Did you mean to wire that connector as seen in the image on the left?
The factory connector is in the center and the factory Honda diagram is on the right. It looks like it just needs a switched power and ground. I think I'm a little confused.